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Bobby and Mandee's Too Smart For Bullies
by Robert Kahn & Sharon Chandler
The author of this book suggests that parents and teachers read this book along with the children. It will help assist the children in dealing with bullies and what they should do when they encounter a bully.

Bully: It's Time To Take A Stand
by Lee Hirsch & Cynthia Lowen
A companion to the acclaimed film "Bully", this book brings the story of the documentary beyond the closing credits, continuing the national conversation inspired by the film.

Bullying Is Not a Fact of Life
by US Dept. Health & Human Services
If you are concerned that your child might be bullied or is bullying other children, the information in this booklet can help. This booklet describes the steps that parents and schools can take, together, to help prevent bullying.

Cliques, Phonies, and Other Baloney
by Trevor Romain
Written for every child who has ever felt shut out or trapped by a clique, this book blends humor with practical advice as it explains how to form positive, healthy relationships. Trevor Romain tackles this serious subject with wit and common sense, explaining what cliques are and why they exist. (8 & up)

Creative Partnerships For Prevention
by US Dept of Education
This resource guide provides information on the important role that the arts and humanities can play in prevention efforts and offers several activities that draw upon the arts and humanities to increase young people's resiliency. The activities provide in this guide are designed to provide readers with ideas for creating their own innovative learning and skill building activities.

Educating the Heart: Lessons to Build Respect and Responsibility
by Frank Siccone
Educating the Heart is a resource specifically designed to help teachers meet two of the most demanding challenges they face - building student's respect for themselves and others, and promoting both personal and social responsibility. It provides the tools teachers need to turn their classroom into a safe and productive learning environment where students are empowered to make a difference in their own lives as well as the lives of others. Grade level: 2-6

Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying
by Cheryl Dellasega and Charisse Nixon
Gossip, teasing, forming cliques, and other cruel behaviors are the basis of the relational aggression (bullying) among preteen and teenage girls, which harms both victim and aggressor. Until now, no one has been able to offer practical and effective solutions that stop girls from hurting each other with words and actions. In this book the authors explain not only how to prevent such behavior but also how to intervene should it happen, as well as overcome the culture that breeds it. The authors show that girls not only want to help rather than hurt each other, they can do so with guidance from concerned adults.

How to Handle Bullies, Teasers and other Meanies
by Kate Cohen-Posey, M.S. LMHC LMFT
Every young person will need this book at some time in his or her life! It covers annoying name calling, vicious prejudice, explosive anger, dangerous situations, and causes of difficult behavior; contains more than 12 ways for melting meanness; uses dozens of dialogues and practice exercises that children enjoy reading; shows young people how to put spiritual truths into action; gives parents, teachers, and counselors a method to help young people help themselves.

Just Kidding
by Trudy Ludwig
A rare look at emotional bullying among boys from the best-selling author of My Secret Bully. D.J.'s friend Vince has a habit of teasing D.J. and then saying, Just kidding!" as if it will make everything okay. It doesn't, but D.J. is afraid that if he protests, his friends will think he can't take a joke. With the help of his father, brother, and an understanding teacher, D.J. progresses from feeling helpless to taking positive action, undermining the power of two seemingly harmless words. Trudy Ludwig takes another look at relational aggression, the use of relationships to manipulate and hurt others, this time from the boy's point of view.

Little Girls Can Be Mean: Four Steps to Bully-proof Girls in the Early Grades
by Michelle Anthony and Reyna Lindert
Little Girls Can Be Mean is the first book to tackle the unique social struggles of elementary-aged girls, giving you the tools to help your child become stronger, happier, and better able to enjoy friendships and handle social cruelty. The author's simple, four-step plan will help you become a problem-solving partner with your daughter. Also offer tips for educators and insights that girls can use to confront social difficulties in an empowered way.

Mom, They're Teasing Me
by Michael Thompson, Ph.D.
Almost everyone agrees: Childhood can be a traumatic time. Kids frequently face peer rejection, name-calling, bullying, after-school fights, esteem-crushing cliques, and malicious exclusion by the "popular" kids. This is a specific, hands-on guide for parents who want to empower their children with the tools they need to cope with social cruelty.

Odd Girl Out
by Rachel Simmons
If your daughter has ever come home from school upset because her friends didn't walk with her to lunch, if she has wanted to stay home or has run up to her room in tears and won't tell you why, you may need this book. Naming the problem is often the first step in solving it. This book not only names it, but describes it, understands it and offers advice on how to deal with it.

Perfect Targets: Asperger Syndrome and Bullying
by Rebekah Heinrichs
Most child and adolescents with high-functioning autism and Asperger Syndrome are victims of bullying at school and in the community. This book takes an honest look at the different types of bullying and the actions adults must take to curb bullying, thereby helping to prevent the often lifelong effects of this insidious form of behavior on victims.

Queen Bees and Wannabes
by Rosalind Wiseman
When Rosalind Wiseman first published Queen Bees & Wannabes, she fundamentally changed the way adults look at girls' friendships and conflicts - from how they choose their best friends, how they express their anger, their boundaries with boys, and their relationships with parents. Wiseman showed how girls of every background are profoundly influenced by their interactions with one another. Now, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book for a new generation of girls and explores: How girls' experiences before adolescence impact their teen years, future relationships, and overall success; The different roles girls play in and outside of cliques as Queen Bees, Targets, and Bystanders, and how this defines how they and others are treated; Girls' power plays - from fake apologies to fights over IM and text messages; and Where boys fit into the equation of girl conflicts and how you can help your daughter better hold her own with the opposite sex.

Sexual Harassment and Teens
by Susan Strauss with Pamela Espeland
An excellent resource for all professionals working with teens. This comprehensive program brings people together to explore and understand the causes and consequences of sexual harassment and sexual violence.

Sticks and Stones
by Scott Cooper
This unique book will help you give your children the verbal tools to counter the hurtful words others tell them - and that they tell themselves. Each chapter, based on the characteristics of a particular bird, uses a wealth of examples, sample scripts, and imaginative, easy-to-follow exercises to give kids the confidence to speak up for themselves more assertively, yet gently and effectively.

The Bully Free Classroom
by Allan L. Beane, Ph.D.
Bullying is a big problem in schools today - positive and practical, this solution-filled book can make your classroom a place where all students are free to learn without fear - and you're free to teach because education, not behavior, is the focus. Includes reproducible masters. Grade level: K-8

The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander
by Barbara Coloroso
It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incident as a normal part of childhood. All it takes to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy is a glance at headlines across the country. In this updated edition, which includes a new section on cyberbullying, the author gives parents, caregivers, educators--and most of all, kids--the tools to break the cycle of violence.

Why Is Everybody Always Picking On Me
by Terrence Webster Doyle
This book is filled with stories and activities to help kids learn to deal with bullies. It explains why bullies and victims behave as they do, and uses questions, role-playing, and other activities to teach kids how to resolve conflicts nonviolently. Also useful for parents, teachers, and counselors. A Benjamin Franklin Award Winner. (6 & up, parents & professionals)


10 Tips To Help Stop Bullying
Channing Bete
This booklet teaches parents about the type of lasting harm bullying can cause, and why it's everyone's responsibility to help prevent it. Booklet provides a list of tips that include explaining to children the different types of bullying and why bullying is wrong, building children's social skills, recognizing warning signs, working with school staff, and getting involved in school and community efforts. (English)
To request a copy of this resource, visit or call Pathfinder and ask for Handout #2

Bullying Cibernético y Niños con Discapacidades (Cyberbullying and Children with Disabilities: What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Children)
Internet se ha convertido en un lugar para que los niños publiquen comentarios malos e inapropiados sobre sus compañeros. Es importante que los padres de niños con discapacidades aprendan lo que es el cyberbullying y cómo responder. Este folleto de 8 páginas tiene información para los padres sobre cómo abordar el acoso cibernético con su hijo y qué pasos tomar si su hijo está siendo intimidado en línea. (The internet has become a place for children to post mean and inappropriate comments about their peers. It is important that parents of children with disabilities learn what cyberbullying is and how to respond. This 8-page booklet has information for parents on how to address cyberbullying with your child and what steps to take if your child is being bullied online.) (Spanish)
To request a copy of this resource, visit or call Pathfinder and ask for Handout #150

Bullying: Keeping Tabs On Getting And Giving Respect
Channing Bete
This quick-reference resource quickly and easily enlightens teen readers on the different forms of bullying, helps build prevention and intervention skills, and guides teens on what to do if they experience or witness bullying. Stresses the importance of responsible decision making. Tabbed table of contents lets teens flip right to the information they need. (English)
To request a copy of this resource, visit or call Pathfinder and ask for Handout #32

Cyberbullying: What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Children
The internet has become a place for children to post mean and inappropriate comments about their peers. It is important that parents of children with disabilities learn what cyberbullying is and how to respond. This 8-page booklet has information for parents on how to address cyberbullying with your child and what steps to take if your child is being bullied online. (English)

Cyberbullying: Keeping Tabs On Digital Safety
Channing Bete
This engaging quick-reference tool helps teens understand what cyberbullying is and how to avoid it. Guide helps readers understand the negative impact of cyberbullying, how they may have played a part in cyberbullying in the past, and what type of action is appropriate if they become a victim or witness of cyberbullying. Tabbed table of contents lets teens flip right to the information they need. (English)
To request a copy of this resource, visit or call Pathfinder and ask for Handout #42

Online Resources

Bullying Prevention: What Parents Need to Know by PACER Center

Watch PACER Center's Bullying Prevention: What Parents Need to Know on Bullying can be an isolating experience — not just for the kids involved — but for their parents, too. Fortunately, there is help. This workshop offers a comprehensive overview for parents to learn what they can do to address and prevent bullying. Topics include definition and roles, laws and policy, ways to help your child, working with the school, students with disabilities and online safety.
Website provides information from various government agencies on what bullying is, what cyberbullying is, who is at risk, and how you can prevent and respond to bullying.

Understand Cyberbullying in College

This site provides tips, tools and solutions for recognizing and stopping bulling in Social Media and online. 


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