Resources

Conflict Resolution

Lending Library items are available to be checked out for two weeks to all North Dakota residents.

Lending Library - Books (7)

Lending Library - DVDs (13)

Books

Before Push Comes to Shove
by Nancy Carlsson-Paige and Diane E. Levin
In a violent society where there are so few models for positive conflict resolution, teachers can help children learn the skills that they will need to resolve their conflicts with others. By using the childrenÂ’s story book Best Day of the Week as a starting point, Before Push Comes to Shove shows how teachers of young children can begin to build conflict resolution skills with young children in ways that are meaningful to them and embedded in their everyday school experiences. Grade level: PreK-3

How to Take the GRRRR Out of Anger
by Elizabeth Verdick & Marjorie Lisovskis
Anger is a part of life. We can't avoid it, we shouldn't stuff it, and we can't make it go away. Kids need help learning how to manage their anger. Young readers learn that violence is not acceptable and there are better, safer, more positive ways to resolve conflicts. Children's Library Ages: 8-13

Negotiating At An Uneven Table
Phyllis Beck Kritek
The author explores the process of resolving conflicts in situations where unacknowledged inequity influences disputes and their outcomes. Substantially revised and expanded, this new edition will help open minds and balance the negotiation process. Throughout the book, Kritek challenges traditional approaches to dealing with inequities at the negotiation table and offers alternatives for reframing the process.

Ready-to-Use Conflict-Resolution Activities for Elementary
by Beth Tolis
Over 100 step-by-step lessons and illustrated activities. Gives students the tools and empathy they need to solve conflicts peacefully and feel like winners. Grade level: K-6

Stop! Think! Choose!
by Katta Mapes
Stop! Think! Choose! Tackles the toughest issues you and your students face today. Each chapter

Teaching Conflict Resolution Through Children's Literature
by William J. Dreidler
Here's a book for those who would like to help primary grade students become more effective and independent in handling conflicts.

You Can't Come to My Birthday Party!
by Betsy Evans
"You can't play here." "You're not my friend." "You can't come to my birthday party." Similar words are familiar to most teachers. Resolving conflict, preventing problems, and creating emotionally safe environments are the responsibility of the adults who care for young children. This book presents a six-step problem-solving model that illustrates how adults can help children find alternatives to hurtful words and fighting. Ages: 3-8

DVDs

Be Cool - Give & Take: Middle School Part 2: Demands, Module 1
by James Stanfield
All too often minor differences between students escalate into angry disagreements and mutual alienation, usually because both sides lack the skills needed to negotiate a fair solution. One obvious reason students don't negotiate more effectively is because no one has ever taught them how. Even though the elements of effective negotiation have been identified for a long time, no one has brought these skills to middle school students until now.

Be Cool - Give & Take: Middle School Part 2: Insolence, Module 4
by James Stanfield
Your students will learn that using negotiation instead of insolence, is the best way.

Be Cool - Give & Take: Middle School Part 2: Intimidation, Module 2
by James Stanfield
This program teaches the same techniques used by top international negotiators to resolve disputes. The negotiation skills students acquire through the Give & Take series will be tolls on which they can rely, over and over, throughout their lives as they interact with family members, friends, co-workers, and authority figures. Your students will learn that negotiation, not force or emotional blackmail, is the best way to obtain what they want from others.

Be Cool - Give & Take: Middle School Part 2: Threats, Module 3
by James Stanfield
When people can't settle their differences they often become frustrated and angry. Things become personal, and what was once a difference in opinion becomes a crashing conflict of interest. This program will help teach your students how to negotiate instead of escalate their differences.

Be Cool - Lower - Coping with Criticism (Module 1)
Lower Elementary
This Be Cool Module will help you teach your students the negative consequences of reacting like a victim, or of responding like a hothead when being criticized, as well as the advantages of being assertively "cool."

Be Cool - Lower- Coping with Anger/Self (Module 5)
Lower Elementary
Learning to recognize, accept and control one's own anger is a complex process. Frustration over acquiring new skills and broken agreements are some common triggers for experiencing anger from within. This program will demonstrate methods which children can use to effectively cope with their own anger.

Be Cool - Upper - Coping with Anger/Other (Module 4)
Upper Elementary
Helps kids deal with anger coming from someone else. Shows the 4-Step Plan to express their anger.

Be Cool - Upper - Coping with Anger/Self (Module 5)
Upper Elementary
Helps kids deal with anger originating from within oneself. Shows how to express their anger using the 4-Step Be Cool Plan.

Be Cool - Upper - Coping with Criticism (Module 1)
Upper Elementary
There's not always a clear difference between helpful criticism and destructive nagging. This module teaches kids how to distinguish between valid and invalid criticism and how to cope with each. They'll also learn the dead-end consequences of a COLD (Victim-like) or HOT (Hot-head) reaction to criticism.

How to Teach Without Getting Punched: Preventing Battles and Blow-Ups with Angry Students
Love & Logic (90 minutes)
As the school environment changes, teachers need new skills. In this live presentation Dr. Charles Fay offers techniques that: help create harmony between teacher and student; keep disruptions to a minimum; control outbursts with empathy; show what to do in a dangerous situation - fighting, guns, drugs; and show how to discipline without losing quality teaching time.

Peace Talks 10: Stepping Up To Peace
30 minutes
Stepping Up To Peace focuses on the role of community in teenagers' lives and how developing a strong sense of community can be a powerful way to reduce violence. The ethical basis of community spirit is explored as teens decide whether or not to help a stranger in need. Teens learn that compassion, tolerance and respect are the cornerstones of any community and discover ways to use these values to create stronger communities in their schools and neighborhoods.

Peace Talks 2: Resolving Conflicts
30 minutes
Resolving Conflicts examines the reasons why so many teen disagreements turn into conflicts and fights. Teens learn the importance of good communication skills in resolving conflicts, and how to cool out conflicts before they become violent. Real life confrontations are de-escalated when teens respect each other's feelings and learn to assert themselves in non-threatening ways.

Peace Talks 7: Bridging Racial Divisions
30 minutes
Nothing can fan the flames of teen violence like the mistrust and conflicts which result from racial divisions. Bridging Racial Divisions explores the painful personal consequence of racial conflicts as teenagers from different racial groups come together to discuss the stereotypes and prejudice that divide them. Triggers to violence such as racial slurs and graffiti are examined, and teenagers are encouraged to value diversity and build communication across racial and ethnic lines.

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